Why most people fail

I haven't come to criticize anyone, nor have I come to judge your past actions. But I have come hoping to convince  you why you probably aren't yet a success or haven't achieved success as you desire.

I would like to quickly enumerate some qualities of successful people:

    they are usually time conscious

    they prefer to not procrastinate

    they are always optimistic

    they cherish what they have

    they are determined

    they know what they want

    they define what they want

    they try to see the future of what they already have (vision)

    they don't hope on miracles

    they are patient

    they are persistent

    they learn to love and as well hate

    they don't stick to one idea

    they don't quit

    they are risk takers

    they may consider other persons opinions but they don't depend on them.


It's one thing to claim to possess any of these qualities, but it's another to actually possess it and nurture it.

Many of the unsuccessful people fall under the first category and in most cases don't even realize it. This scenario is even the saddest of the conditions.

Problem is, we don't even know what we want and as a result, what we may not even want (though our actions says we do want them), get a better part of us. But not yet is it the end of the journey. We fall to rise. We fail to succeed. We hate to love. We fight to win. So we must rise to succeed and simply learn from failure.

I usually love to consider determination as the greatest of these qualities. Cause, to be determined is to be conscious. To be determined is to avoid procrastination. To be determined is to be optimistic. You cannot achieve what you really want if you aren't determined.

A good knowledge to achieving success also is to know that everyone isn't programmed the same way. You shouldn't always do things because your role model or someone did it. You are not a duplicate. There is no second of you. It's just you. It takes a good understanding of oneself to reach our goals.

I usually like to end pieces like this by saying that you keep yourself from achieving what you want.
Much luck from me to you as you strive to progress.

Thank you

THANK YOU.

It's just two words. Am I wrong.

Don't think so. Just two.

It doesn't hinder any positivity of any kind.

Learn to make it effectively.

It can change a lot for good.

Our jurney to Perfection.

A wise one once said that we all should make a journey to perfection; not a journey of perfection. This should make a whole lot of sense to another wise one like you. "Regard mistakes and disregard Deceits", he further added.

Call him by the name

One of the methods I've figured out gets people closer is just by calling them by their names. The importance of names are not often understood by a lot of persons. I've come to realize that I tend to become dearer to people around me and they get to feel as important as ever when ever that are called by their names. It applies even when you haven't had any word with the person before.

Names are more like we individuals ourselves. Names are more like a summary of what we are. In several occasions, I've had lovely conversations with people whom I barely speak with or don't even speak to at all just because I call them by their names.

Don't assume in marriage

Assumption is one necessity in some aspects of life and a cancer in other aspects; most especially, in marriages. It is what has retarded the joy of many coupled lives and broken them up in some others.

To establish happiness in a long term in marriage, you should learn to make yourself open to your spouse and eliminate any form of assumption you may make about/of you partner. It's deadly and could prevent the growth of any form of relationship, it doesn't just apply to married lives. 

NB// You may use it in education or elsewhere, where it isn't harmful, but please, not in relation ships should you want it to be productive.

Lay yourself bare

Pretense and untruthful decisions, you may not have thought, contribute in diminishing oneself. Did you read the title right and did it make any dawn on you just after reading it? I hope it did. Yea, "Lay yourself bare", is what I titled it because that is what a lot of humans have found very difficult to do. We disguise our true abilities  and put on that of another pretending to posses the quality of that. We by all means just want to elevate to something that we aren't in the pursuit of many things; and in most  cases, things that will never contribute to the development of oneself. This can never do us any good but can only cause us harms, if not in the short-run, in the long. This is why I would always admire the premise of being your own boss at work. Simply repair yourself for good and always strive to make yourself a better person I would always advise. That's just the remedy of life. Never hype to achieve because it never will last. It only linkens temporarily and blinds us, not just does it does that, it surely rewinds us back in the ever evolving or growing world, hence, not keeping up with it.

Joshua Milburn would always say,"pretending to be perfect won't make us perfect. We are humans and hence, fallible. We ain't perfect and will never be. We fall, we rise. We make mistakes, we learn from them. We create it, we erase it." You can't do it? tell him you can't instead of posing in front of it and getting the people around disgusted by the illicit work you think you are doing right. It all simply lies within us. Lay it bare.

Considering our instincts

One thing I’ve learnt in my life time is considering my instincts in my dealing with things. Certainly, I ain’t the only one who has made this consideration. We humans a times prefer to die down our inner voices and simply follow contributions made by some other external forces (friends, family etc.). To that, I would say it isn’t bad at all, but one's own opinion matters more. I would simply like to portray that the inner voices, the instincts, those silent voices that never speak often times turn out to be the most productive direction we make in a life time. One that you ordinarily wouldn’t expect to be of any help whatsoever.

Someone once said,”think big, start small, but start now”. And guess what…this statement is often times not scrutinized as many want to start big and big. You only have to nurture your thoughts and get them mature. 

One of our basic tasks on earth is contributing to other people's lives.

An excerpt  from theminimalists;

If there is something in your life right now that you’ve been wavering on, a decision of should I or shouldn’t I?, just act on what you know is right. Act on that built-in voice. We guarantee you’ll fell great.